Book Club Guide

By Author Joan Craven

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Discussion Questions

  1. Bring one elastic band for each member. Read Chapter 9 and then for the rest of discussions listen and if you hear yourself say “but” give it a gentle snap. Or if you hear others say “but” gently remind them. You may begin to lose that nasty little word. Practise for the next 21 days. Some experts say it takes 21 days to change a habit. See if you can get rid of your big “but!”
  2. Self-talk has a huge influence on the kind of day we choose to have. Read Chapter 2 and think about someone who you worked with who constantly used extreme words. Were you aware of how you felt around that person? Did you catch the “extreme words” habit?
  3. Read Chapter 10. Stop and listen to your own self-talk as you attend book club. What are you saying to yourself? Are you as kind to yourself as you are to others? Think about your conversations with yourself as you drive home. Are you “shoulding” on yourself instead of saying “from now on” or “next time.”
  4. Worry often gives a small thing a big shadow. Swedish Proverb. Is this proverb true? What do you worry about? How do you handle your worries? Read Chapter 20 and share your favorite worry story that turned out to be a terrific waste of time.
  5. One of my college professor friends calls reframing cognitive restructuring. Reframing is the art of turning what you first might perceive as a bad situation into a good one. The words you use are so important and may signal the type of day you are going to have. Read Chapter 21 and discuss a time you restructured a situation that many might have considered nasty and it turned out just fine.